Setting Boundaries - Saying “NO”

Oftentimes, we overextend ourselves to please others, and this can be exhausting. Are you someone who gives too much and have nothing left for yourself? Do some of your relationships stress you out more than others. Do you struggle to say “no”? If this is you, set more boundaries. A great place to start is to determine why these individuals drain your energy. Then, figure out what boundaries need to be put in place and how you can do so in an assertive way. Remember: being assertive is just you confidently and directly advocating your needs while also respecting the needs and feelings of others. You can do so by using “I” statements. This can soften the “no” or boundary. This allows you to focus on communicating your needs and feelings while also avoiding saying any negative things about that person. For example, you can say “when you do this, it makes me feel uncomfortable and taken advantage of”. This can decrease the chances of the other person feeling attacked while also allowing you to comfortably set healthy, personal boundaries. Good luck!